What I’ve learned in becoming a single mother by choice

So at 28 years old, single and entering my post-doctoral year, I decided that it was time to try artificial insemination. My budget and my heart were willing to handle four attempts and should it be unsuccessful, I would accept that maybe now wasn’t the time. Not to ruin the ending, but I did ultimately become pregnant and the mother of a wonderful diva of a child. Here is what I learned along the way:

I found out I was pregnant two months after entering a clinical psychology Ph.D. program. I looked around at the seven other members of my cohort – all slightly older than me, unmarried, without children, and, at that point, basically strangers. I looked around at the program as a whole – I knew of four other parents. Everyone knew of those four other parents because, as the numbers suggest, having kids in grad school is a bit of a unicorn scenario.

If you’re reading this, thanks for connecting with us and the things we are doing as part of the Families in Psychology Project (FIPP). One of the most frequent questions we receive from people interested in our work is, “How did you get started?”

Welcome to the Families in Psychology Project blog. If you have stumbled on to this site, I assume by now you know what FIPP is all about. But in case you found this blog through other means, we are a consortium of psychologists and trainees that work to shed light on the struggles that many in the field of psychology have when they decide to enter into parenthood. As part of our mission we aim to conduct research and advocacy projects to let psychology parents know that they are being heard and are not alone. This blog is one part of that mission.